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Do you have time for your own kids?
One may ask me that what kind of ridiculous question is this. Everything we do is for our kids. It may be true but this post may help some of you. Here, I would like to share my personal experience with my daughter Liesha.
As other kids, my daughter is also fond of playing on mobile, watching TV cartoons and play games. Many times I will have to forcefully switch off TV although I don't like to force her for anything. Moreover, I don't like to scold her. But for almost a year I was trying different methods. Some do work and some do not.
Similar is observation about her studies. She will never be ready for studies and would always procrastinate. Few of you may argue what a 1st standard kid should study. But in India still study has got priorities. I still believe our kid should built habbit of studying as any other necessary habbit.
I belive situation is similar in every home. Kids don't listen to parents. Often we complain and wonder what to do.
Other day, I was surprised to know that my daughter neither asked for mobile nor for TV or any other thing. Moreover, she was obediently following me. She readily agreed for studying on that day. Surprised, isn't it? Who would not like to be in this situation where your kid is obeying you.
It was a Thursday and holiday during Ganapati Festival. I started a day at 6 am in the morning with unusual request that she wanted to see sunrise. It was cloudy and there was no scope to witness sunrise but I agreed. We left the home. Walked down colony. Listened to birds voices, saw beautiful flowers and played a bit around. My daughter n myself discussed how mornings are pleasant, pollution free, etc. We visited small temple in the colony. Also visited her friend Ananya. Later both the girls played together. I asked them to read one lesson. Both obediently did it. By the time we return home it was 10 am. Once we came back we took bath, got refresh and had lunch. I asked my daughter to study as her tests were beggining next week and she readily agreed. Usually she will not agree for study. We (please note not she alone) studied for 2 hrs. It was almost 4pm. By now I was surprised, she has neither asked for mobile, TV, games, etc. Moreover we continued study.
Somewhere in the evening 5 pm she realized that she didn't watch TV today and asked me 'Can I watch cartoon?' I agreed and allowed her 1 hr. Again in the evening we studied for another 2 hrs. We had early dinner and slept early as both of us were tired. Friday she went school. As usual, I was busy with my office work. My daughter decided to sleep early as she wanted to enjoy pleasant morning on Saturday as well. On saturday we started morning at 7 am. Since morning, we were in her friends building open parking. We (myself, Liesha and her friend Ananya) studied in beautiful pleasant ambience. Wheather was perfect clody n windy. I allowed both the girls to play. We walked down in colony and visited temple. But today we studied more than Thursday and that too without any resistance from these girls.
Since that day, Liesha is now very much interested in getting up early morning, going out, having fun and studying a bit. Now it has become a routine. On holiday or over weekend we start our mornings early and go out.
Now I wonder why she is not asking for mobile or TV or any other things on these particular days. I realized we crib about TV and mobile use by our kids. But we ourselves are not getting rid of it. I think we are not engaging ourselves with our kids in the right manner. Please note, during these days, I was with my daughter throughout engaged myself in her activities. Therefore I feel no other method than engaging with your kid will get rid of mobile, TV or games. Moreover, they will study and obey you without any resistance.
It is not necessary (or it may not be possible everyone) to engage yourself the way I did. Engagement can be within home as well for small duration but be part of their life. Let them realize that you are preaching what you follow. Everyday after coming from office, I ensure to spend 1-2 hrs with her. I become a kid of her age. We do everything together masti as well as study.
Hope this helps some of you. Remember our kids don't really need mobile or TV or any expensive toys but our time. The question is - Do we have time for our own kids?
Thanks for your time. Keep visiting.
Dr. Dattatraya Parle
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